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Human beings are the greatest creation when compare to the other
creatures. As
per the scientific approach, We are not going to born again
or With spiritual approach We are
not going to born again with him as my brother and with her as my
sister or whatever it may be.
Marriage is the
very important event, happiest moment, enjoyable function in our life.
Considering the Psychological factor,
physical factor and with the explosion of population, the Government fixes
the minimum age as 18 for girls and 21 for boys.This may vary in future.
Parents and great parents are the most
enjoyable persons to conduct the marriage ceremony to their lovable kids.
There is no yardstick to
count or check the joy. Definitely, the parents should be reaching or
crossed 50's, while they are conducting the marriage of their wards.
It is obvious that, they will be living at stressfull
life.
That stress itself acts as catalysis for the existing /
hidden diseases.
Also
Due to the over joy, their diabetic level or Blood Pressure level or
Asthma level or ulcer levels may shoots upwards in a linear way.
Simple reason not caring their health conditions. So it is mandatory that, they should
undergo the medical checkup
Compulsorily,
Strictly,
Definitely.
They need the compulsory overhauling, and a
periodical maintenance. It costs only nothing
when compare to the marriage/function expenses.
Without maintaining the health conditions, Dont
Blame the incoming stars and/or the revolving planets So , You may be
bride or bridegroom or younger or elder mother or father, please take care
of the parents and great parents health.
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Stress. Stress . . Stress . . . Stress is like onion. It
will be tearful while removing its skins. Absolutely Nothing inside if
we remove all the skins. Avoid stress. Bhagavath Gita Says " Do Your Duty. Rest on Me"
I hope the following guidelines will gives you
good analysis, a shape
in how to do ? or
what to do ? You are
having the time comfortably.
Analyse it ,
plan it and
Outsource it
accordingly.
That's all. Marriage is over.
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In the modern trend, the elites are conducting the marriages in the
Temples in a very, very simple manner. And Celebrates the same
in the name of Wedding Receptions, twice or more in different places
categorizing as
Wedding Receptions For relatives (in own villages)
Wedding Receptions For Colleagues,
Wedding Receptions For neighbours (where
presently living)
This is of course definitely a costlier.
The name may be varies accordingly.
But it reduces the others precious time and
transport costs in greater way. I heard that Generally in
Andhra Pradesh, Marriage ceremony will takes place only in mid-nights,
Because their calendar is based on the Moon who plays the major
role.
While analyzing the fact that,
keeping the main motto as, public life will not be disturbed, they can do
their duty in the day time and, after supper leisurely they conduct the
marriage ceremony and disperse.
In Tamil Nadu
Our calendar is based on Raising Sun. and hence all the marriage
ceremonies are conducted in the absolute dawn.
I like the peoples in cotton
city Coimbatore, Banian city Thirupoore etc whether elite or not they are
conducting the marriage ceremony in the temples, during between 9.00 hrs
to 11.hrs, believing the Almighty, "Doshams" will not affect any one if
the marriages are conducted in the temples.They use to have the lunch cum
reception in the Mahals, simply after the Marriage is over.
Since my intention is on simplicity, but There are several places
where the marriage ceremony is conducted like the car festival.
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Inform (and invite) about this proposals to
Elango Mandram
Chennai Chakkaram
Madurai www.kulalars.com
and to the relevant Thirumana Amaippalargal whoever already approached for
their help.
This activity ensures them to delete their profiles in their
organization. As
well as do inform the relevant matrimonial sites and ensure they had
deleted your profiles.
Viz.,
www.bharatmatrimony.com
www.Tamilmatrimony.com
www.kalyanamaalai.net
www.aspsonline.com
Remember :
if your address and contact numbers are left with them, new new relatives, so
called bride or bridegroom searchers, will visit and eat at "Seemantham"
or even at your grand son/ Grand daughters Birthdays
celebrations
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Invitations.
Dont discuss with each other whom should be invited. Advice All of your family members should Prepare a
Mailing list separately.
Mailing list
may be categorized as for friends, colleagues and for relatives.
Invitation list may be created either by geographical
wise or Generations wise.
All the list should
be mixed together and again divided in two divisions like Postal and
personal.
In these modern days, it is very
difficult to invite everyone in person. Hence postal invitations should be
dispatched immediately .
And it is your duty
that, you should call them over phone and politely explain your shortage
and need of the time and as well as invite them for the function.
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Discuss with each other, how to conduct the 90 miniutes marriage process and sort out the differences as per mutually agreed upon
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In invitiations, provide the
kith and kin names with their cell phone or telephone numbers and if
possible with the designations.
Depute the
family members to invite on geographical wise, to invite all whether he is
relative or friend or colleague.
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In
invitations it is essential, the key map should be provided, because,
there may three to four marriage halls in the same street, or in the
remote street.
This key map will be
more helpful for the drivers to deliver them comfortably.
The key map means, how the Mahal or the place is
connected with the nearest main road and parallel
roads. |
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How much crowd will attend ? Its a million dollar
question.
The answer is How much you are popular that much of the
crowds will attend any functions.
For simple calculation, We presume that, You had
invited with 500 invtiations.
Deducting 100,
approximately 20%, Balance 400 invitees will visit with their spouse and
childrens, on and average two per invitations, around 800 persons may
visit the marriage.
This ratio may vary here
and there. Keep it in mind that to provide the infrastructure for above.
Inviting thousands of peoples are not the
issue, but we have to provide the very basic infrastruture
facilities like boarding, lodging, secuirty etc.
Keeping the present days trend, it is
not advisable to hold a very long gathering in one place that too for a
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Purchasing the
Dresses.
Buying the silk saree for the bride and other
dresses for kiths and kins is the important process in the marriage
ceremony. For some families, difference of opinions may arise in this
part.
We are living in the carry bag era. So we use to enter into
the textile shops with free hands. For eg. we may purchase twenty items in
that shops. The shop owners will pack twenty items in different twenty
carry bags.
Normally accompanist has to carry ten bags in each
hands. They use move to the other section and buys additionally five or
six bags, which will be incresed luggage for the accompanist.
Here
are the chances for theft or losing the bags. By adopting few methods
we can overcome this problems.
Consolidate all the bags in to
a single bag or bundle it with the jute ropes as much as possible. or if
necessary buy a gunny bag like a thing and consolidate into it
instead of blaming others later. |
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receipts of Mahal, caterers etc, till the function is over and the account
is settled. |
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Select few volunteers from your friends circle and delegate the important portfolios to them.
Both the bride and
bridegroom family members should receive jointly welcome all
the relatives.
In this juncture you should not run after Coriander or black neem leaves.
why should not employ the relatives ? Even the spouse will expect the royal treatment,
red carpet welcome, where as the friends will be ready to dive in to the ditches without any hesitation.
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Out of sight is out of mind.
Prepare a check list, what are all the things to carry ? what are all the processes has to be done ? |
Extensive usage of the cell phones
reduces our burdons. List of executors with their cell phone numbers may be distributed, will ensure the line of sight |
| Make more visits to the
marriage hall and check for the environment is free from garbage, or any
stinking smell etc. |
| Employ the sweepers and ensure that the
cleanness of halls and as well as spraying the Scented Phenoyls in the toilets
regularly |
Ensure
the availability of continuous power supply. Else confirm whether the power
Generator is functioning properly, and whether petrol or diesel, the fuel is in
stock. Check all the lights, focus lights, exhaust fans are
properly working. |
| Check for the separate dais for
Melams, Musicians for the convenient use of their tools
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Chairs should be properly
arranged.
Dont dump the chairs very near to
the Marriage dais. Which will obstruct, all people especially
photographer, videographer, video audio mixer/Composer etc.
Normally Early birds will occupy the
last rows, a row very near to the exit, keeping them ready
to quit as early as possible. Initially 75% of chairs may be
arranged in a proper way.
If required additional chairs can
be placed accordingly. |
| Ensure the litter free zone in
the marriage halls. |
Advice
the visitors to park their vehicles in the parking area of the
mandapams.
If not, parking of
vehicles may distributed evenly, not to make any traffic jams or menace to
the public |
| Employ one
of the responsible person, to ensure the availability of water freely.
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| According
to the necessity, dont
hesitate to hire the vans or quite a number of cars, or mini bus , or
bus or even a lorry which will be of great use for shunting purpose.
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A picture will
speak hundreds of words. Recording the events of the functions will speak in volumes
to the future generations.
Bride family and bridegrooms
family are engaging the Photographer and/or videographers.
There is no
directors to direct them. Photo/videographers use to shoot only the bride
and bridegrooms family alone monotonously.
All the peoples, VIPs ,
Relatives, Kids, friends etc, who visits to functions are assets.
Especially
Oldies and the young kids.
Young kids with zeal, neatly
decorated, or funny things around the mahal will be of great interest to
record.
Specailly employing two cameras, one camera always on the Dining
hall and at the reception and other one is always focusing at the dais.
Special
instructions should be given to the video editors, that he has to cut only
the blurred images, or the unfocussed items.
So He has to give the
full content almost without editing.
Videographer, it is
his duty that, he should shoot every individuals independently
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In Hindu marriages, both bride
and BrideGroom should be in fasting till the marriage is over. And as well
as they should be in front of the Homam Eternal fire- Smoke.
Mostly 90% percent of the mahals doesnt have the
exhaust fans , Especially at the dais.
With
the fasting and with the smoke, they might get tired very soon, which puts
a sad shadow in the photographs.
If possible, The mahal owners should provide the exhaust fans considerably,
or the organisers should post the pedestal fans in proper places to suck
all the smokes and throws out. |
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or function runner, dont be hindrance to the service providers.
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Bride and Bridegroom family
both are engaging a photo/videographer separately.
This process
consumes the considerable amount of Fifteen thousands to fifty thousand
rupees on and averageInstead, with the prior agreement, either Brides
family or the Bridegrooms family should engage the video/photographer.
And the other should take the copy at their own cost or both the families
should share the cost at 50 50 basis. |
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Back Drop.
Event managers provides neatly decorated back drops
(preferably in dark colours) with too much of plastic
flowers too much or linings in attractive colours on the
dais.
Keep it in mind, backdrops colour should be in contrast to
the bride and bridegrooms dresses. Normally we use to take dark
colour dresses.
Still photos will gives a good quality picture If we
have backdrop in light colour with less designs. |
Delicious food is measured not
only Sumptuous but also by its taste.
Vegetables plays important
role in taste. While conducting the functions, we will buy the vegetables
might be in the Wholesale markets and not in the retail
shops.
Definitely it will a cheaper and of good quality in the
Wholesale markets.You can buy rice or any food grains anywhere, but not
the quality vegetables.This may helpful to cater the needs to manage
overcrowds.
Buy 25% extra vegetables than
quoted by the caterers. |
Milk. Raw food but core
substance for either Buttermilk or curd, or coffee or tea, or sweets or of
the liquid food for babies or for the patients.
Now you might understood the importance of the Milk.
Eventhough the milk powders are available, but ensure the more than enough
quanitiy of milk should be available. |
Dining Hall Manners.Whether it
is a Buffet lunch in star hotels or served by the caterers, it is
countable by the main plates or by the leaves. We will be of great
pleasure to take food with our companions.
We have to co-operate with the service providers. We
have to sit sequentially, not leaving any empty seats in between. For
which function organizers have to pay the full amount, which is
unnecessary cost.
It will be of great
difficulty for the food servers, while if We sit here and there.Our great
valued visitors may feel as a great insult and will take the disciplinary
action against the function organizers and with the caterers if the
caterers points out to them.
A co-coordinator
may be posted to bridge the gap between the caterers and the Visitors
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Buffets are varies from 250 Rupees to in thousands. No of persons counted by
the main plates given at the starting point. Function organizers have
to pay the amount based on the plates, and not by the quantity.
Usually in buffets, the bearers will serve as much of the plates.
For example you be in need of eating curd rice, which is not served at
the first time or in addition. You can get the curd rice in the same
plate again. Or otherwise, please take the separate plate and not main
plate.
Since of your un awareness, the function runner should not
pay the entire amount unnecessarily, for the curd rice worth only
Ruppes.20/-
A co-coordinator may be posted to bridge the gap
between the Hotel Manager and the Visitors (please dont have any
difference of opinions. Our intention is why should the organizers are
punished for our ignorance) |
Serving the food for childrens. Usually at the marriages or at the receptions,
gents will do great jobs either business talks or enjoying the Sangeethas
after which they will eat food and ready for the dispatch.
The mothers are at the heights of embarrassment. They
cannot enjoy on their food. Or even they cannot feed to their wards. The
childrens cannot eat their food on their own. And as well as serving to
these kids, will consume more time, and some times it will increase the
wastage.
To overcome
this, necessary arrangements shuld be made and hence the mothers may go
inside and fetch the food in the plates for childrens and feed them even
while they are playing. Please do remember, to return the empty plates to the
Mahals and not throw them out like banana leaves, Because of this reasons
caterers will not provide the steel plate or a kind of Plastic/Clay
plates, served in hotels or to serve the Non-Vegetarian food.
It is important to note that, Mahals will provide
enough vessals but not this plates. ( Even on reading this Mahals can make
provision of plates as the additional facility. At the maximum 50 number
of plates are required.)
Supply paper plates
or Thermocol plates or Thonnai plates ( Thonnai plates are made up of
Dry Banana leaves or Betel Nut leaves) , will not sustain the food weight,
or our peoples will not handle this plates in proper way.
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Now a days visitors or relatives
are not in a position to stay in the Mahals, And / or not attending the
both days function, Whether you are conducting he marriage in the
Metropolitan city or in village or in remote place.
Here is the need of the peoples
management. Serving the
breakfast from 5.30 am onwards, Serving the Lunch from 10.30 am
onwards, Serving the Supper from 7.00 pm onwards will be of great
use. This will reduce the spurt of mob into the dining halls.
The servers can serve the foods in relaxed manner. The caterer can
make himself ready to meet any shortfalls. The
function organizers can concenrate in other areas.
The VIPs or visitors or relatives all will
be engaged evenly instead of stare in others faces. Greatly the
sweepers can keep the Dining hall in hygiene condition Every one can
move freely without hindering others. And finally they will
disperse on their own transports comfortably.
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Last but not the least, everyones cooperations should be available to concuct the funtion to a grand success
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Advice the marriage hall manager to employ the person
the set the chairs back in a position 30 minutes after the completion of
the marriage ceremony.
This activity is frees the public to move
freely. This would disperse the crowd politely.
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Registration. Government and the Judiciary are advicing to register the marriages. Especially those who are applying for passport or visa or immediately migrating to foreign countries, they have to register as early as possible.
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